Self Dependence

“There is no dependence that can be sure but a dependence upon one's self."

Others cannot disappoint you if all you depend on is yourself. Dependence is a dangerous thing, it is decepting. It creates a false sense of security, one that must ultimately be shattered. On the other hand, independence, like hope, is liberating. It teaches you to depend on yourself, and when you fall short of fulfilling your expectation, you will sit back & ponder on what you could do differently in the future. We humans are understanding of our own virtues, strengths, and shortcomings far more so than we are of others. Thus, we will forgive ourself. We will motivate ourself, and start walking one more time when we feel we haven't reached the goal we set out to. However, when others don't meet the goals we have set out for them in our minds, then we are disappointed. An easy remedy is to be self-dependent.

This does not mean that we are capable of doing everything ourselves and don't need human company around us. It just means that we only need ourselves for pursuing our most intimate and prized dreams and goals. We must not include others in this game plan. Everyone has been put on this planet to pursue their own game plan. Including someone on your team may lead to them de-priortizing you, naturally and understandably. So its best to follow your own path, your own journey. Should you meet someone on that walk, you should enjoy the companionship. But never expect the companion to outlast the journey, for we began the journey alone, and we should end it alone.

Once you set out to, its not so difficult to think of everyone around you as fleeting. Be grateful should they help you pursue your goal. Feel nothing when they don't, especially not disappointment, not anger, not resentment.

"Expectation is the root cause of all sorrow." When you learn to expect everything from yourself and nothing from anyone else, it will be that much easier to pursue your journey and the reason you are here.
The biggest gift you can give youself, the most significant lesson you can teach yourself.