Everyday is a new battle. Some are easier fought than others. The toughest sort of battle is when near ones don't get you.
Relationships are hard. Already burdened with the weight of expectations and emotions, as soon as you add one more thing, they are ready to crack and even break. And there is very little place for us emotional fools on this planet.
I believe that the hardest part lies in finding someone who connects with you on the most basic levels. Much like a puzzle, you must fit. The rest then doesnt seem too hard. Ofcourse dont start believing in a thing called love. It was only a term created to denote the mental disease that some of us catch or think we have. Its neither real nor everlasting. It is delusional. It is much like a drug -- gives you extreme highs and lows. And hence people like it. Like alcohol, like any other drug-- it is addictive.
A much better relation is friendship. Where people accept you for who you are. There are no strings attached. You dont have to promise a friend anything or continue to dole out fixed amounts of affection and gifts to continue being friends. You either get each other and hence like to meet up, hang out and have fun. Or you dont get each other and have no reason to be stuck with each other.
A marriage could turn out a lot better if the couple decides to be friends with each other, acknowledging that there will be times they will not see eye to eye but will give each other their own space and let each other do their own thing. No pressure. You could call this arrangement anything, even love, if that pleases you. But... beware .. as soon as you think you are treading down the path of love... you are going to go down the slippery slope of expecting and never know when you've lapsed into another broken heart.
Thus... "I long for friends, and I am weary of lovers..."
Love -- a beautiful description cannot but conceal the real truth -- love is but a figment of our imagination.
Describe to me what is this love? Whatever the answer you chose, can you find one pair that fulfilled the definition to the tee? Well, in my quest for love, I havent. And the claim that I havent looked far enough or long enough would be incorrect. I was a follower, more so a preacher of love to those around me. Love was a beautiful feeling. But one day you wake up from this dream. And realise that life is just a journey of self-realization, one in which all you must hope to pursue is 'NOTHING'. For however small or big your expectation from your lover or partner, remember, as humans they will falter and so will you. This will hurt. Once again, there is a way out of this eternal cycle of ecstasy and sorrow.
"Falling in love with yourself is the beginning of a life-long romance."
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